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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's funny how people think saying they're fine *now* is a complete answer. For my parents, the hard part came in old age when the financial damage of divorce meant they ran out of money sooner and their health meant they needed more help from me.

Everyone says "I'll hire a nurse". Well no you won't, because you can't afford it, and at a certain point you might be so far gone that you don't even understand the concept of a nurse or recognize one when they visit. [/quote]

Funny you think people need at nurse in their 50s. Most women are active and sane until age 80. No point to waste 20-30 years of retirement with person you hate or resent.

I’m so so happy single ! I travel a lot, my mother is 75 and still skies. Just went to a trip around the world.

My exH cheated and we divorced when I was 45. I’m now 48 and feel it’s such a relief ! He was a burden we had little in common and I’m glad he won’t be my dependent in his senior years. He’s older [/quote]

You're missing the point. OP didn't ask "How is your gray divorce in your 50s and it doesn't matter how it is after that". Grav divorce means you may be divorced for the entire rest of your life. Focusing on the near term and ignoring the rest of your decades is foolish and screws over your kids.[/quote]

Nobody would agree to misery for 20-30 years just so their kids could be free of elderly care for 2-3 years. There are Medicaid facilities if you feel like your parents betrayed you by divorcing [/quote]

It's hilarious that you think it's just 2-3 years.

People don't have to be in misery. They can-- get this-- repair their marriages! It happens and it's much, much better for everyone. Gray divorce is not the solution people like to think it is, and should only be undertaken with a very realistic understanding of the long term, and a pro financial planner. [/quote]

Women don’t get the benefit of a spouse, caring for them in their old age cause most of the times that spouse is dead and many of the times the spouse will leave when they get sick or they’re just incapable.

So for man, it might be an issue but for women it’s not.[/quote]

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