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[quote=Anonymous]OP: I feel for you. Ignore the crazies. No one, not even our elderly parents, is entitled to our time, energy, and money. What you decide to give is based upon what you can realistically do given your circumstances and how you authentically feel about a person and the value of the relationship. You have your own family to take care of and can’t spend every free moment taking care of your parents who don’t live nearby. Your brother does deserve a break but he needs to hire professional help to remove himself from the day to day. It sounds like your parents can afford it. He is burnt out and lashing out at what he feels is inequitable. But he took this role on and sees no escape route. This is a clash over values and expectations. I love my parents but don’t want to take care of their health needs. My dad is taking care of my mom and he is so burnt out, exhausted, and resentful. It has destroyed their relationship but he feels obligated to take care of her and won’t accept outside help. Professional help is the only way to not destroy relationships and individual lives. Your brother needs to accept that the kids can’t realistically manage this. [/quote]

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