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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please remember this when it actually comes time. If I have learned anything in dealing with the elderly is that when they are young they swear they will be independent and not need help. But when the time comes, they definitely want help.

Things look very different when you actually need help.[/quote]

Nope, our parents have always said they will not move from their houses. They will "age in place" with help. One lives in a hoarded house, one in a 6000 sq foot house. Both have lots of deferred maintenance. [b]They call us when there is an emergency like they can't find their car or the remote won't work. It doesn't cause any resentment at all. [/b][/quote]
OK well see how you feel when they start falling, getting ambulances and need someone to drive to and from hospital, wait for them after surgeries, advocate for them in the ER where they will spend 6-8 hours waiting for "scans". and on and on. [/quote]

True. And I did all this when they were already also in assisted living.[/quote]

Yes. This is something people don't understand. If the elderly person has family, the expectation is that they deal with all emergencies, etc. If they have no family, it is one of the reason that the elderly die quickly. If an emergency happens, the call and ambulance and the person is sent to the hospital. Then the hospital ships to a rehab facility. And if they haven't improved adequately, they are required by the state to keep them. When the hospital puts out notice that someone needs to go to rehab, the facilities look into their insurance and details to determine if they should take them. (Think clearing house for people deciding if they want to take a job or not.)

All to say, that your parent in assisted living doesn't get you off the hook for dealing with the medical issues that require care. [/quote]

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