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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]* he yells at me when I ask basic questions about money.[/quote]

Because he’s still hiding stuff.

I kept asking to see my DH’s paystubs because he would get angry about money and scold me for tiny purchases in spite of making a salary that I knew generally to be in a range that would easily allow that. And I did see his w-2s every year so it’s not like I was totally in the dark. But be alike not sit down and work through a proper budget in spite of yelling at me for spending $60 or buying juice as a treat for the kids’ breakfast.

Turned out that during divorce I discovered he had $500-$700 going out the door every month on a secret expense. And we haven’t even finished discovery yet- that’s just one thing I stumbled into. He was screaming about money because he was terrified I would realize there was a spending gap if I pushed, so he needed me to slink away in fear.

Divorce, or get ready to dig hard and have a potentially dangerous conversation. He will escalate because you had his back up against the wall, so it would be smart to think through safety planning. [/quote]

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