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[quote=Anonymous]Every family dynamic is different (obviously). What would I do with the dynamic you described? I would call the sibling, thank them, acknowledge that it is a heavy lift they are taking on, everyone cry for a min, and then ask specifically what can I do. Can you be in charge of the finances and sibling be in charge of medical? Can you offer to fly in one week a month while sibling takes the time off (this one if kinda annoying for the sibling bc of the routine)? Can you offer to pay for a house cleaner and schedule and give them a key? Yard cleaning person? Pay to cover a hairdresser and coordinate? Pay for them to get their nails done once a month (we had an in home service at the end)? Pay for the sibling to go out to dinner once a month with their spouse/friends and you pay for their babysitter? Everything is a pain and everything is expensive and everything is horrible during this stage. Treat your family like clients. Treat your sibling like a client or new boss you are trying to win over. It’s annoying, but it really is the best way to keep family drama down to a minimum. It helped me to get through this stage and I dealt with the family trauma/drama after parent was gone. And yes, this will impact your finances, spouse, kids, friends, social life, and personal health. Get ahead of it now with open communication, long walks, and get your personal family on board with the commitment it will take to get through this. Good luck! [/quote]

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