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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They are expensive as are babysitters. [/quote]

do you never leave your kids, ever? do you go to work? to the doctor's office? to church where you leave them in the nursery? shopping? to the gym? I'm calling BS that you NEVER leave your child EVER, unless you are some weirdo attachment parenting type.[/quote]

Most of what you list takes 1-2 hours not 1-2 days.

And candidly most of what you list is more important than the wedding of someone who doesn’t like your kids. [/quote]

Then just say no to those weddings. Why so much angst? You don't like them and they don't like your kids. Easy decision.[/quote]

If I’m invited to one I will. My circles tend to either include kids or provide on site babysitting.

It’s only here I see people getting angry that others decline their invitations, or immediately insist you have to send a gift. [/quote]

I haven't actually seen that. I only see people huffy their kids weren't invited. Have never seen a post complaining that a family member with kids who weren't invited refused to come. It's a narrative people invent in their heads but it's not reality.[/quote]

It’s right here in this thread on the first page. The “do you never leave your kid?!?!” post. [/quote]

That person didn't have someone decline their invitation. It's like you getting pissy your kids weren't invited to a hypothetical wedding.[/quote]

That person has the attitude of entitlement that people will seek childcare for *their* super special event. [/quote]

Or they wonder how someoen gets by in life if their kids can't accompany them everywhere. It's a general question.[/quote]

Most adults understand a difference between things that are very important— doctor visits for example— and things that are optional. Mistaking your wedding for being as important as medical care is narcissism.[/quote]

So wedding aren't super important family reunion events. Got it. People keep saying otherwise so it's confusing. They are opportunities for a nuclear family to get a free dinner otherwise they don't go.[/quote]

Weddings are important family events and when our family is invited to them we make them a priority.

When only one or two members of our family can attend it’s not a family event. I don’t see where dinner comes into the equation?[/quote]

When your friend, coworker or neighbor invites you it was never a family event. But if you want to take it as a snub have at it.[/quote]

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