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[quote=Anonymous]Yikes, OP. I'm late to this thread but it reads like I could have written it. Behavior like this made me think at one point that my DH might have a brain tumor or was dealing with a TBI that had been missed. The lapses were so egregious that I tried to reach for insane explanations for them. Eventually after neurology appointments and seeing other specialists, DH was diagnosed with ADHD as well as autism and depression. Both were surprising but also helped me puzzle together some things over the years that just didn't make sense. But I think that might not even be everything that's going on.

A diagnosis is not a cure. And unfortunately, once our kids were school-aged, DH began to lean on his diagnoses as excuses. Even with medication, his ADHD very much affected our home life. He used his medication during the work day to great success but the side effects were anger and aggression, and he also didn't take them on weekends or late in the afternoon, so we didn't benefit from them at home.

Eventually DH left us. It was shocking and horrible, and extremely hard for me and the kids, but at the same time I am relieved that they aren't being driven regularly by him and that the safety lapses that were still occurring are no longer an issue. [/quote]

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