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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I see these posts, I always wonder if the OP had a SAHP or is generally unobservant. I and most of my millennial friends came from dual income families and our lives are pretty similar to what we grew up with (particularly those with transplant parents). In many ways, I have it easier than my parents: remote work exists, I have more disposable income, cities are much safer. Yeah, it’s a ton of work, but that’s not new. [/quote]

I definitely think this is right. Ever since our second was born, DH has been bemoaning the lack of free time and the amount of chores and childcare he now needs to do. Like… what did he expect?! He also spends at least an hour each day working out, so it’s not like he gets zero time to himself. Plus we have local family who are able to help us out with sick days, school breaks, date night babysitting, etc. All in all, I think we have it pretty good for a dual-working parent family!

However, DH grew up with a SAHM, a dad who worked a lot and did minimal housework/childcare, au pairs/nannies, and housekeepers. I think that has got to be coloring his expectations. I grew up in a family with two parents who worked outside the house, so our lifestyle - which DH maintains is SO difficult - just seems normal to me.[/quote]

Sounds like your DH had a fabulous lifestyle growing up. Why wasn’t he able to fund a similar lifestyle himself once he reached adulthood? At least the nannies, housekeeper and staff.[/quote]

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