Reply to How do people in dead bedroom marriages cope?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "How do people in dead bedroom marriages cope?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"A dead bedroom in your 30s is almost always a sign of serious issues. A dead bedroom in your 60s is usually not a sign of anything. 40s/50s... depends on the situation. A lot happens in those decades that can really depress libidos, though that same stuff can also cause other marital strain. It just depends on the couple and the situation.

These threads often devolve into one or two posters acting like sex is the only reason marriage exists, arguing with several posters who are likely a decade or two older whose marriages have several key benefits that have nothing to do with sex. It is seemingly impossible for these posters to understand each other, so I guess I only hope they aren't married to each other!"

Nope. I often comment on those posts. I'm almost 60 and a woman, and I don't believe that rejecting your spouse sexually is okay at my age or any age. If you're healthy and interested in sex in general, just not with your spouse, you're asking for trouble if you don't address this as a couple. [/quote]

But then your issue is not actually dead bedroom, but wandering eyes. And also while the situation you describe can happen with older couples, it's WAY more common with younger couples. Because libidos decline with age.

If your 35 year old spouse has lost all interest in sex with you, odds are good they still want sex, just not with you.

If your 65 year old spouse has lost all interest in sex with you, odds are good they just aren't very interested in sex anymore.

And before you yell at me, I heard you the first time. Yes, yes, you are a very horny almost-60 year old woman. That's fine. I wish you lots of sex now and in your future. But statistically, libidos decline across both sexes with age, and they decline more aggressively in women as they enter and complete menopause. It's not every woman, but it's a lot of women. Plus rates of ED in men go up with age -- approximately 40-60% of men in their 60s experience ED. So when a couple in their 60s experiences a dead bedroom, it is much, much more likely to be the result of naturally decline libido than just someone who is desperate for sex but simply no longer attracted to their spouse. That happens much younger.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics