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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For Op- I get it. My parents divorced when I was six and my Dad basically checked out of my life. I had to see him every other weekend and if he did not unload me at my grandmothers, I would have to sleep on the floor or couch since I had no room and no things at his house. His new wife and her kids had everything. He skipped all the important events throughout my life, yet still I would call and visit. Then his wife died and her kids stopped talking to him and now I am all he has left and it’s always complaints and negativity when we talk. It feels like a chore that leaves me drained. I am sorry for the choices he made and the regrets he has but that's not really my problem. [/quote]
You don’t get it. OP said his dad was a good dad![/quote]

Because they were not abusive! I would consider my Dad a “good Dad” too despite everything listed above. [/quote]
You did not have a good dad. 
Good =\= not abusive. Your dad was at best neglectful.
Also, OP did not say their dad is full of negativity and complaints. Dad just isn’t interesting enough. It seems really different to me.[/quote]

OP here.
My dad isnt a negative person, I’ll give him that. 
I don’t know how to explain what the issue is.
He tries to make me his confidante, like talking about childhood trauma, I don’t want to hear it.
He has a very set way of how he views child rearing and my kid isn’t the approved kind so I have to be very strategic about what I tell him. 
If I tell him about my friends he’ll start asking about them like they are his friends too, not sure how to explain. 
We’ve already talked about his past.
Nothing much is happening so idk what to talk about
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