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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ll give you another perspective.

I really wanted a third child and my husband wanted to stay at two. We knew one of us would resent the other and finally my husband agreed to have a third kid.

My third kid might have some special needs. So now I need to deal with the fact that not only did my husband have a third kid for me, but I also added a lot of extra heartache over the special needs aspect of things.

I’m sure if I’d stopped at two I always would have wondered what if and resented my husband for it. I’m just saying that there is something to be said for being grateful for what you have.[/quote]
IMO it's better to resent someone and not have a child, than have the child and resent them. [b]I feel so awful for your third.[/b] [/quote]

This is a pretty hateful thing to say particularly as it sounds like PP and her husband are currently expecting said third child and navigating a challenging diagnosis in real time here.[/quote]
PP fundamentally changed the lives of three children by her choice of having a third. The two healthy ones will never get the full love and attention of these parents. Her husband is already resenting her decision, the child is suffering, and the other two children will have a lesser quality of life. Because someone wanted more children and couldn't be happy with the family and humans they already created.

Bringing human life into the world should not be done with such a cavalier "who cares" attitude, and it's the children that suffer here. [/quote]

PP’s husband agreed to have a third child and PP was being self-critical and reflective (good character traits btw).  You’re assuming a lot.[/quote]

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