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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"I would do it happily. We'd save it all for college and early retirement."

I would not do it. The difference in what you can buy isn't enough for what you'd have to give up. At $300K you can already afford to send your kids to college and retire by 65. The extra money just means you do all that in a fancier house and driving a fancier car, but you have to give up BEING THERE with your children during the only years in which they'll be living in your home. You only get one 8th grade first dance with your kid. You only get one opportunity to be there when they sit for the SATs. You only get once chance to drop them off at camp the first summer they're a counselor. I only had one child and I was divorced by the time he was in 7th grade. I consider it a blessing that during the divorce negotiations I had to look at the calendars for the next 6 years and plot out which of us he'd be with on each Christmas, each 4th of July, each birthday. It made me realize that my time with him was finite. Now that he's off at college I'm so glad that I was "awake" and mindful throughout those precious years. [/quote]

Agreed. This is it. These are the good years. We don't live for our kids moving out and retirement. We live to enjoy the few years we have with our kids.

And yes, weekdays are a rush. But for kids life and relationships aren't just about "quality time" on weekends, it's who's there shuttling you around on the weeknights and making sure your homework is done. Presence matters. 
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