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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Your best bet is to do OLD with the Burned Haystack Dating Method[/b]. Otherwise you'll waste a lot of emotional energy attending events not because you truly want to be there, but because you're hoping you'll magically find a man there. Let me tell you, the men you meet out in the wild are no different from the ones you meet online. Well, the exception would be those men who are very able to ensnare women with their looks, money, and charm and who enjoy that chase. Those guys don't need to bother with OLD. But the men you'll met IRL tend to be even worse than the ones online. You have no way of screening them objectively before accepting a coffee date or sharing your number. (And don't give out your real number to men in the wild! Make a Google number for these purposes!) Dating men you meet IRL is way riskier than OLD. You want to be able to vet him online before investing any energy. When you meet IRL you skip right over all the screening and develop a crush or at least get excited about the man before you know anything about him other than that he's good looking and wears an expensive watch. Prospect on OLD, get their phone number as quickly as possible, search it, and then go from there. You will have to screen out hundreds and hundreds of men this way and wait a long time to find someone worthwhile. But it will give you access to those men you're hoping to meet by chance at some dance class. 
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Big yes to burned haystack.

First red flag you see? You're out. First comment is a shallow compliment? Block. First comment is a sexual comment? Block. 
Won't set up a date in a reasonable amt of time? Block. Makes a disrespectful/negging comment? Block. Doesn't seem responsive to messages? Block. Don't just unmatch, because their profile may/will come up again, further wasting your time. Basically you're just weeding out (burning the haystack) aggressively to get rid of undesirable matches. And there will be A LOT of undesirable matches.

You're not here to fix men. You're not here to teach men. You want to find a compatible partner, and wasting time with all the NON-compatibles is just hindering you. Also check out A Little Nudge. [/quote]

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