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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How are people so dense?! OP doesn't want to buy her own gifts or remember herself or celebrate her awesomeness. [b]She wants her DH to WANT to do those things for her. It's not about the damn flowers. It's about having someone recognize how special she is to him.[/b] Personally, I find it cruel when a spouse fails to do something they know matters to their spouse. And it's also cruel to make her suffer through her friends and family showing off what they got/did for V Day while she has nothing to show for it. It's a social event, and people ask. It's humiliating to tell people that your spouse didn't give a sh_t and came home with nothing that day. He KNOWS this matters to her. It's not like it's a surprise year after year. He's choosing to emotionally mess with her by refusing to participate. He sucks. [/quote]
Agreed.

Like, don't you like your spouse? If doing something literally so small as buying a box of chocs or a flower bouquet from the grocery store will make your spouse happy and you actively choose against it, why are you even with them? Can you imagine someone being like [b]"wow, my kid would love this $10 item. Oh well, f*** em."[/b] It's so unnecessarily harsh when the answer is such a simple fix. [/quote]

If this is truly your interpretation, it highlights where the issue is. You could just as easily choose to be unbothered by the fact that your otherwise-fine spouse didn't bring you a snack and/or a trinket, right? Instead, you'd rather take it personally (when there's no evidence that it's personal), and lash out and overreact like a toddler.

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+1 OP is a petulant child [/quote]

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