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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find the rush to cut this friend off really weird but not so atypical of the weird DCUM crowd who aren’t able to navigate conflict.

First, it was before you were married. Second, it’s possible it’s been weighing on her for years and she wanted to find a time to unburden herself when it felt safe (you’re long married, no chance of an affair with her). Maybe it was dumb or thoughtless of her, but I wouldn’t assume evil intent.

If it’s really truly bothering you, ask her. If you aren’t brave enough to ask her, I don’t think it makes sense to cut her off for this. But that’s me. [/quote]

It's a very selfish move. The friend wanted to unburden herself? Give me a break. If that's true, she was being selfish by telling OP. Can you spin this in a way where the friend had good intent? Some of us don't bother investing in relationships that merely lack evil intent. [/quote]

Uh maybe she didn’t think it was a big deal because it was 30 YEARS ago, she was with him first AND one might assume dh would have mentioned it to his wife in 30 years. It is so nuts that everyone is mad at this friend. It’s not her obligation [/quote]

It’s not her place. She should’ve kept her mouth shut [/quote]

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