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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Before giving him the apology note she wrote, asked how long is the punishment is going to be? He replied not till the end of the school year for driving our car. I asked him about the silent treatment. Then we got into a verbal fight. Recap the conversation: I’m the one who gives him the silent treatment,  I have no concern about his health or his mom who is currently in the care center, I don’t throw away recycle items, I don’t put shoes away from the entry way, I’m lazy…I told him you made me lazy bc anytime I clean he said stop cleaning, relax don’t do anything. I don’t respect his wishes… actually I’m the one who does all chores at home, throwing away all the crap he collects. basically whatever I do I’m not good enough. Then he said he will leave and I have to pay phone, electricity bills when I said that I’m not happy and our family relationship is so dysfunctional. I didn’t respond to his word  bc I was about to get into work call. Then he went to my dd room. They’ve talked. DD told him she was sorry…  Since then we haven’t talked. He is out to take my ds to the sport practice. I took my dd to her practice. I don’t want to feel guilty anymore. Whatever happens I will make it fine. It’s not like I’m sitting home doing nothing. I work, I pay bills, groceries too. I clean, cook. I don’t ask for expensive handbags or mani pedi allowance like other friends of mine do to their dh. He doesn’t have much friends. He’s retired. He’s not an easy person to live with, I realized.[/quote]
I think you should get your finances in order and get ready to divorce him when the youngest goes to college.

Your life will be miserable with just the two of you.

I'm a pp whose dad is like your DH - holds grudges forever, and gives his wife (my mom) the silent treatment (for a year).  Unfortunately, my mother didn't have a job, was uneducated and doesn't speak English (we're immigrants), and that generation really didn't believe in divorce. Women just suffered in silence. Fast forward several years after I (youngest) left home, she had had enough and told my dad she wanted a divorce.  He stopped being an ahole for a while, but then reverted to his old ways.  But, by then, she  didn't GAF, and she'd stand up for herself and curse him out. She had never been that way before.

Us kids think she should've left him long ago. She now has dementia, and we are convinced it was hastened by the stress of living with my dad.

Leave when you can. You will be a lot happier. And let your kids know it was not their fault. [/quote]

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