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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For OP - it seems kind of weird and unprofessional that your PSD would tell people that they recommended a specific child over yours. [/quote]

Our PSD didn’t as that, I found out from someone else. But also not great to hear that. [/quote]

I doubt this happened in the way you’re worried it did. These schools don’t operate on slots per preschool, just on overall slots.

You should keep your preschool director on your team and see if there’s a way to get into your second choice while pushing for a waitlist spot at the first choice without blowing up anyone’s relationships. [/quote]

OP here:

I do not plan on blowing up any relationship or kicking my PSD off "my team." Not even in the slightest. I have talked to two sources about the situation we are in and it truly is the PSD and the admissions director in the other end. It all checks out. BUT myself and my husband made it very clear we plan on staying on the waitlist and we expect that our PSD will push to get our child a space at our favored school.

There are definitely many scenario that can happen. We do not even know for sure that our second choice is going to offer our child a spot, or do we know if our third choice will. We may have all waitlists.

We were just told from the beginning that our PSD was pushing for our child for this school and that our child was the number one choice up until yesterday, so we are trying to match up what happened with the sudden change. [/quote]

[b]There are so many explanations for how a child could go from having strong positive feedback and being the “top choice” by a school to the waitlist pool.[/b] If the other child at your preschool is demographically or temperamentally different from yours, it could be that they fill a hole in the class that needs filling. It’s so common that bright smart lovely kids with kind, involved, wonderful parents don’t get into their first choice school for a bunch of reasons that are not any sort of ding on the child, their parents, or the preschool director. It often comes down to what holes they need to fill as they round out a class. But if you really love the school, it’s great to reply to your waitlist offer by re-iterating it’s your first choice and you will definitely accept a spot of one becomes available. Schools love families that love them. [/quote]

My bet is that it is related to the child's parents.  [/quote]

[b]Can you give a concrete example?[/b] I don’t see how this is mainly about parents, since they’re not the ones who need to thrive at school.[/quote]

All of the OP's posts in this thread.  [/quote]

I can actually understand where the OP is coming from. I’m curious which feeder school is being discussed here.[/quote]

People are jealous OP can afford these schools and will get into a TT, even if second choice. Almost no one who goes through this process is more even keel, they all stress. [/quote]

It’s easier to sound even-keeled when you’re not the one going through it.[/quote]

Yes.  People criticizing OP are far removed from the process, never underwent it, and largely don't associate with people who do (otherwise they wouldn't snipe so forcefully).  I don't get why they are posting here.  If they had any sustained familiarity with the process, they wouldn't post like they do.[/quote]

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