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[quote=Anonymous]Gosh, I'm a radical queer feminist and even I know that if the love of my life complained that his meals didn't seem "homecooked enough," he would be telling me that he didn't feel deeply nourished by them, and since that is absolutely my goal when I put the time, thought and hard work into preparing a meal for the people I love, I would ask a lot more questions and find out exactly what he meant and try to do better.

Food is not loading the dishwasher, it is not washing the car or the socks.  He puts the food IN his body and trusts me to help him fuel himself properly.  That's our division of labor, and when he cooks for me, he takes such pleasure in pleasing and nourishing me that it might as well be sex.  It's churlish to do less when you're feeding people (if it's not one of those times when you just have to do less).  And if it is not satisfying to him, if he does not feel fed and loved and completely satisfied, then there is room to improve.

And I have - I cook differently now than when we got together.  I make really flavorful, nourishing food based on traditional cuisines, and try to make sure the house smells good when he walks in the door.  I don't exactly suffer, either.  [/quote]

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