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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The worst is when a parent divorces and then there are stepsiblings or half siblings. Every time you come "home" you're having to deal with people you barely know, who you might never have chosen and would be fine never seeing again. But there's pressure to be a happy family and get along, so you try. Ideally everyone is friendly and cordial, but it's not the same thing as really being "home" and feeling you can relax or have some candid conversations among actual family. It's an obligation that people do out of love for their parents, but it isn't very enjoyable or relaxing. Everyone knows it isn't real and would likely go poof if the parents divorced or one of them died.

It's especially bad if the new wife doesn't like that the dad had a first-round family and wants to pretend her family is the one and only "real" family. Some men are all too willing to give up on their first kids if that's what it takes to be married, unfortunately. They let their wives monopolize their time and gradually edge out their own kids in favor of the wife's kids and grandkids. There's really no "home" at all if that happens. So you, OP, the mom, need to bear all of this in mind and be sensitive to it if you end up divorced.[/quote]

Yes, this conversation is a non starter if the parents divorce and one remarried. No one is going to that house. [/quote]

I go, but it's not home anymore, and I'm enduring it rather than enjoying it. Sadly, it was once my beloved childhood home.[/quote]

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