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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If he gets a weekend day each week, then you need to tell the evaluator that you will trade off holidays. The point isn’t the child having a magical holiday experience, it’s spending holidays with both parents/both sides of the child’s family.

She’s not talking about Memorial Day or Columbus Day, so cares about the religious/secular holidays your family celebrates - Christmas, new years, Thanksgiving (if there are other big ones add those too). So one year you get Thanksgiving, dad gets Xmas - the following year you switch.  [/quote]

For all those who bang the “both parents” drum incessantly on scum: that ship sails once abuse is involved. [/quote]

What, exactly, is a 'both parents drum'? Explain?

FYI, many people with mental illness are parenting. In OP's case, she is alleging things and I guess the custody evaluation will be the deciding factor. But no, you don't just lose parenting rights because of mental illness. It is in the best interest of children to have access to both parents.[/quote]

The modern idea of “best interests of children to have access to both parents” circa the early 2000s is grounded in studies of children of divorce with two mentally stable and equally capable parents, which was distorted and leveraged by fathers’ rights groups who lobbied family courts in the 2000s to push the “both parents” agenda.

People and even judges have inaccurately extrapolated backwards from this legal concept the idea that all parents are equal and therefore children benefit from any parent in their life. That couldn’t be farther from the truth as many of us know, but unwinding it legally will probably take decades. [/quote]

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