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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I just wanted to tell you that I’m in a similar life phase of you and completely empathize with your situation!

I’m a mother of two toddlers whose kids also go to a community oriented pre- school and who lives a home in a family friendly DC suburb expecting to be able to make a bunch of close friends quickly with other new parents… but the reality we’ve only met one set of close neighbor or preschool friends in five years here. There are a handful of families we hang out with for play dates a few times a year, but my DH & eyes aren’t having deeply personal conversation conversations - or hanging out with the parents - outside of these playdates.

Like you, this is disappointed and surprise me, as I also grew up in a family that had many family friends in the neighborhood.

I suspect that this time in life is difficult for many to allocate actually going on, say, a double date with fellow parents to get to know them better as adults. I also suspect that a lot has changed in the era of social media and post Covid, where we know a lot more about each other’s lives and have less curiosity about each other because we realistically are able to peer into peoples lives through Facebook, Instagram, etc. People are also not picking up the phone or making outgoing calls to check in!  Texting is rampant and casual, and doesn’t lead to in person bonding.

I have no solution for the problem you’re describing. Like you, I’ve tried many things, including a book club, a neighborhood mom’s of preschool kids, wine night (it fizzled after 15 months), joining our community pool, joining a gym, and switching our preschool to one that had more SAHMs. I’m still scratching my head.
Here for moral support. [/quote]

OP here....this post sums up perfectly how I feel, and I'm glad I'm not the only one going through it! It is hard, because like you say, maybe this time in life is difficult to allocate time for friendships, but at the same time, people out there are making friends and manage to do it. [/quote]

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