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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I won't mind at all.  I am Asian. I vacuum, mop, wipe a part of my house every day.  Make beds in 3 bedrooms, wipe counters in 2 bathrooms, do laundry for 4 - every single day.

When I visit my sister, I do not sit idle if I am feeling energetic.  I will peel garlic, chop veggies, fold laundry, vacuum, dust,  clean the fridge, clean/sort the kids toys, keep her kids engaged, teach them piano,  help with homework, tutor them in Math, cleanout their bookbags/lunch boxes -  while my sis can do other stuff.  We are still chatting and hanging out all the time.   Same when I visit my ILs or parents - we will do something or the other.  Maybe even knit or crochet.

If I feel overwhelmed or tired, I don't need to do anything.  But if I have energy, I can talk and work at the same time.  We do this for each other. We bond while we are doing something.  I thought it was common behavior in extended families in most cultures.  You have to have this kind of bond and closeness to be able to lend a hand.  My MIL will sit in the family room with the ironing board and iron my kid's clothes for me, while she is talking to me.  Every little bit helps.

I believe that when we stop working or doing small tasks, we will start aging and start declining mentally and physically.

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Most people don't want to live like in a socialist commune. I realize you come from areas of high population density and different cultural background, but you cannot impose your "normal" here. In addition, OPs mom is not socializing. She's going to bedrooms herself when the rest of the family is eating dinner or doing homework. Her dad is on the phone. So she's alone upstairs digging through everyone's bedrooms. To top it off, she's been doing "her own thing" all her life or else she "easily angers". So no, even based on your "normal" what you have and what the OP has is not the same. [/quote]

LOL! It is OP's parents, no? They raised her.  Their culture is her culture - at least at home.  Unless she is married to a someone who is not a part of her culture and objects. [/quote]

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