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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think sometimes siblings do and say things that they don't realize are hurtful/not acceptable/think are fine after years of the same behavior being tolerated. Then there is a moment were the person asserts themselves and cuts off contact.

The reality, a mature person would talk to the sibling, discuss, since in many cases the behavior was never intentional to harm, and frankly the person wasn't aware it was a problem. Might not even be aware that something they do is a problem for someone else.

Again, mature people talk these things out. Unfortunately, the person who is cutting ties WANTS no contact. They don't want to talk. Given that, there is nothing to do about it.[/quote]

NOt always.  SOmetimes people are aware of patterns and know that no matter what, the other person would not change because they are simply not capable[/quote]

Agree. I had to drop a friend who would always go on about her illness (that was a well known illness that has lots of support that people really care about). She had to schedule a sign up sheet for meals and everything. Meanwhile I had something that noone cared about and I just couldn't be around her parade of empathy anymore. She never thought to reflect, "wow I get so much attention from our mutual friend group and noone checks on her". It's not like I could say that to her because she would even ask for volunteers to drop off meals or gift cards for herself. Clearly she was not in the space to think of others.[/quote]

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