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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]it's so brutal to watch this process, OP.  echoing the support and suggestions of many earlier posters, i'd suggest making a concrete game plan today:

- go through the rounds until preference. she doesn't know at this point where her friends will ultimately end up (trust, there are lots of disappointments to come)

- if she starts to warm up to her remaining houses, great!  then go through pref night for more info, and see where she ends up on bid day.  keep an open mind then, as there will be so many women she hasn't met yet.  if it's a terrible match, drop before initiation and try again next year (or move on from greek life)

- if she doesn't like her final two houses, drop before pref (don't wait to get bid).  snobbery isn't an issue; this is a voluntary activity and she shouldn't be shamed if she honestly can't see a match.  if she doesn't feel a connection, no need to lock herself in at this point.  then, sign up for COB right away!  many houses regardless of "tier" will do COB (yes, even "top-tier" houses), and if she has current friends who pledge, she may have a better shot then

- meanwhile, treat social life like a class.  find three clubs/activities.  try each one three times.  structure it, and something will take root.  so many kids who had easy social experiences before college haven't developed the skills of putting themselves out there.  practicing now will pay dividends for the future, in addition to finding her people (who ARE at Michigan, it will just work to find them)

truly wishing the best of luck![/quote]

DP. Most helpful response I’ve seen on DCUM in a long time. I wish more people were like you. [/quote]

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