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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP is very brave (or stupid) for posting this question on this forum.  Most of you have no time for/hate your aging parents.

Post after posts says 4 weeks is "a lot."  It's not a lot.  It's a decent amount, sure, but it's not a lot.[/quote]

Sorry, but when my mom was 77, I was 46. At that time I had kids in elementary, full-time work and the whole household to run. What exactly do you mean 4 weeks is not a lot? There's absolutely no way I'd be able to visit my parents for 4 weeks every year in another location. Add to this ILs and we have 4 adults. Are you saying you're spending 4 months a year visiting your elderly parents/ILs? This is not possible for the majority of people with elderly parents/ILs. [/quote]

+1 I’m sorry but OP is clueless. A 77 year old woman probably has children in their mid 40s to early 50s. And if she has children (which OP did not mention so I’m thinking no?) they are likely teens or early 20s. At say 50, you’re working full time, you have teens or college aged children coming and going, you may be dealing with your own health issues or your IL’s health issues, it is a busy time of life and I am surprised OP doesn’t recognize this.

Even if OP’s child is single and no kids, you still run into the issue of taking time off at work. It’s not always possible and it is limited for most people. I’d suggest dropping the visit at Thanksgiving and moving it to sometime in the late winter/early spring, that way everything is more spaced out. And if OP is that worried about her health, it’s time to look into a retirement community or at least downsizing to a condo on one level that is much closer to her daughter. Vs. making her travel to you 4 weeks out of the year. [/quote]

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