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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a tomboy. I have 7 brothers, no sisters. I still prefer men's clothes. I do buy men's sweaters/sweats/etc.

When I wear dresses, etc I feel like I'm cosplaying.

I've found ways to "dress androgenous" in a way that is "stylish" ... more so than sweats.

I did wear a dress when I married but the idea of a wedding dress was just too much cosplay.

I have a degree in Math, I'm an CS Engineer. I love sports and outdoorsy stuff.

Mostly through my life my closest friends were male. I've learned how to blend since after leaving college and males as your closest friends is just not an option.[/quote]

OP here and I relate to a lot of this. I was computer programmer for years before switching to a related field.

It was actually clothes & makeup that made me think about this topic specifically.

After a long time working remotely, I'm interviewing now, and for the level I'm interviewing at, there is this expectation of looking the part. I 100% feel like I'm playing dress up and don't feel like myself at all.  It's such an odd feeling and I wonder if I'll get used to it.[/quote]

Op, I am a tomboy who worked at a high level as an executive director. I still didn't wear dresses or heels or make-up. They were hiring me for my knowledge and skills, and if me not looking like a Barbie was going to be the deciding criteria, then I really didn't want to work there. I wore a black pant suit to the interview and got the job. I refuse to play dress up to meet the expectations of anyone. Accept me as I am or move on. [/quote]

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