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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sigh.

This isn't about teenagers spending too much on gifts for each other.

This is about OP either disliking her DS's girlfriend, or feel jealous of her. Or both. I bet OP is one of the people on here complaining that her DH got her nothing. [/quote]

Whoa. Way to project. I’m op. Gf is ok, I don’t know her well tbh but my son likes her so it’s all good. But they both seem unnecessarily materialistic and that bothers me. [/quote]

Do you have a successful marriage OP?  Does your husband take you on dates, open the door for you, is he chivalrous, etc?  Could you be a little jealous that this girl has self esteem?  There is nothing wrong with occasionally going dutch on a date.  I can remember when i was in high school  dating in the early 2000s my dad explaining that boys should treat me a certain way and I should not expect less.  A boy who wants to be with me will always rise to that.  A guy with bad intentions won't.  Nothing you describe seems overly materialistic. I'd also be happy that my son treats his girlfriend well.

If he were acting like a chump I would have his dad talk to him but this sounds like the social contract that has existed between men and women since the beginning of time. One party has something the other party wants from that party in particular  and the other party sets the price in expectations.[/quote]

I’m op. Not jealous and I’m also financially independent from my dh but he does treat me well, yes. But we are adults. These are teens and the excessive materialism is sad to me. I don’t particularly remember items that boyfriends gave me when I was younger but I do remember the non materialistic gestures they made. Letters they wrote, times they coordinated a day at the beach with a packed lunch, that sort of thing. These mean so much more than, say, the $80 fleece my son’s girlfriend said she wanted as *one* of the holiday gifts from him. [/quote]

I agree Op.  Is he using his own money for this? I wouldn’t be giving him a cent to spend on a girlfriend.  [/quote]

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