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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This all is very true OP and your post was also very well written + articulated.

Having a present, loving Father is HUGE in a young girl’s life.
Simply because a young girl’s Father is usually her first close relationship w/a Male.

If he treats her well - - he definitely sets the bar for how she should be treated by other Males as her life progresses.

If he does not treat her well at all &gt;&gt; he also sets a bar…..a much lower one obviously, but still a bar nevertheless.
In a situation like this, a young girl experiences what to her is a “normal” Male relationship, one that sets the stage for the rest of her life.
When she meets bad/abusive men later on in her life, she feels in her comfort zone since this behavior reminds her of her childhood where the term “comfort” originated from.[/quote]

This is so true for my last relationship. My ex-gf of 3 years lost her dead when she was 2 months old, mother re-married and she didn't like the step father and then whatever happened married her ex-H at the age of 15, had two daughters and the past relationship was very abusive and kind of like a trauma bond. she dated for a few years in between her divorce and me and didn't find anything stable. Relationship with me was too much for her I think. She was impulsive and abusive sometimes and would be very loving the other times. she would constantly say that she is not good enough for me since I am very educated and successful and she wasn't. I never made her feel like that in any way, intentionally, but she was a little jealous of the money or what my kids are getting, etc. Her not being good enough ended up becoming the main thing in our relationship and she got more controlling, defensive and abusive if I try to bring up anything that I didn't like as she thought I am focusing on her insecurities but I was just trying to do the repair by trying to understand her. It was unfortunate but I ended my relationship with her. she also has low self-esteem and I sometimes wonder what else I could have done since I loved her but not a lot of things since she had to handle her hurts and wounds. [/quote]

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