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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like OP's wife does enjoy these things, just also finds them tiring like PP. And OP may be suffering from a poor understanding of holidays. If he thinks his wife can just cut back on everything she does and nobody will mind and there will be no consequences, think again. Family and community relationships are reciprocal and require at least a little bit of time and effort. Sometimes men are just coasting on their wife's effort so they don't realize this. But blowing off everyone's parties, giving no gifts, refusing to travel, being a crap host or telling houseguests they aren't welcome absolutely does have long-term relationship consequences. OP may be fine with the loss of those relationships but that doesn't mean it isn't a real consideration. [/quote]

Men or women who say “just do less” need to read this. My ex insisted on doing less and cutting out reciprocity. We were cut off and isolated. I’m slowly rebuilding a social network for me and my kids, but I mourn all the lost connections and experiences from when I went along with my ex’s forced cutbacks. Some relationships or experiences won’t ever come back, and I can see in hindsight how little effort it would have taken exDH for huge gains. He smugly thinks he’s somehow won, but has a really sad lonely life that he expresses through nastiness at the kids and occasional text outbursts at me.[/quote]

I just can’t with all these dramatic stories. A whole lot of drama llamas on here. Do the holidays things you can handle, drop the rest. Or keep them and know it’s your choice. I don’t understand how cutting back on holiday parties leads to being cut-off and isolated from your social network. Did you not speak at any other time of the year? (Actually don’t answer, it doesn’t matter). So little agency on here.[/quote]

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