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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - the PP said something important you don’t want to miss. Elderly paternal age is a very high risk of autism and ADHD. My child has autism and so are many of his classmates born from “order dads”

Older paternal age is over 35 [/quote]
Excellent point. New data shows old sperm is the cause of more issues than old eggs. So OP should be aware that her childs risk of autism or other SN is much higher with an old man. [/quote]

As a mother to mildly autistic son i observed those wealthy families with large age gaps in my child’s private school. Literally all kids took exams in HS with special accommodations. Kids couldn’t attend public schools as they are unable to focus and needed hand holding socializing with classmates and teachers. I had to give up my career to take my child to therapies and they had a major mental crisis in teens and first year in college (where they were not as much guarded and tendered  to). My marriage didn’t survive the stress of older husband (who turned out selfish and uninvolved dad irritated by SN child). We divorced when I was in early 40s and he in his 50s.

None of the “old dads” kids succeeded or got into great colleges, 4 years post HS graduation. Boys are now trying to become musicians and girls physical therapists or similar. These are kids of very wealthy families with dads who are lawyers, financiers etc. So next gen is a step down intellectually from the parents.

Don’t do it to your kids, OP! Find an energetic young man to reproduce with 
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I wouldn't have a child with a woman over the age of 32. Don't take it personal if you are past that age. It's just my preference. And I do think I want to get anyone pregnant either once I am past 30. I'm 25 now and engaged. My fiance is 26. As soon as we get married we will try for a child.

Because so many people are having children so late in life, the science has evolved to accommodate them and make them think like it's okay.

If you look at most SN kids, they were born of older parents. [/quote]

No one takes it personally that you are a man in his 20s marrying a woman in her 20s and having kids right away. But not wanting to get your fiancee pregnant after 30 will not survive reality if you both decide you want several kids and it takes a little longer than expected. [/quote]

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