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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I get it and am sorry you are being put in this position. It is simply not fair to you to have to be "the bad guy" in not instantly and fully supporting your husband in supporting his sister.

Yes, it is sad that OP's SIL has such a terrible addiction. Yes, it may be true that due to a past accident the SIL has major struggles to no fault of her own. Yes, OP's husband is amazing in wanting to help his sibling. But what of OP? How is this awful situation at all fair to OP? Why must the OP be the one to sacrifice so greatly and to do so especially when she has no control over the situation.

The OP here has worked hard, saved hard and has certain goals for her and her immediate family's future. OP has made good choices in life and while it is not for us to judge whether SIL has made good choices (as SIL could have had some tough breaks), it is simply not fair for the OP to have to sidetrack or not reach any of her life goals in the service of the SIL. And it is certainly not fair of OP's husband to put her in this position. I am very sorry OP for this situation that you are now dealing with.[/quote]

SIL’s college was paid for by her parents.  No one, including DH, knows whether she actually graduated with a degree.  She did not work full-time before the accident either.  [/quote]

Why do you assume she is lazy?  Sounds like more going on here if she was unable to graduate or work full-time. [/quote]

She has no proof sister didn't graduate, just because her DH is a dumbass who never bothered to ask. [/quote]

I don’t know if DH never asked, or if he just doesn’t believe whatever she has told him.  He himself has admitted numerous times that he thinks she is a liar.  When they were in high school, she added her name on his cell phone plan that he was paying for and when confronted, she lied about it.  This is just one of numerous stories about her taking advantage of him.  [/quote]

Why would he want to help her if this was true? [/quote]

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