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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]An anecdote about this. Told by a long married, older neighbor. She told her long term boyfriend, "I want to be married to you. But if you don't want to be married, I need to be dating other people." And she did. And no longer saw him. He had some months experiencing this new normal, evaluated his feelings and intentions and proposed marriage.

This is what I would suggest to young women. Women who do want to be married. If you don't want to be married that's ok too. But if you do, it's not exactly an ultimatum. It's just stating the truth. I can't be devoted to you, for any longer, if you're not wanting to be married.[/quote]

That’s some 1990s “The Ring” sh@t. lol

We all read that and practiced it. That book was even mentioned on SATC😂[/quote]

lol…it’s not “The Ring,” it’s “The Rules!”

Although I like the idea that if he doesn’t propose within six days of watching the video, she’s going to crawl out of a well and get him :)[/quote]

Ha! Yes! Thanks[/quote]

People bashed that book—but I know all of my college friends practiced a lot of it and all married good/desirable men before 30 (in their late 20s). Most then waited 4-5 years to have their first kid which was better on the marriage and careers. [/quote]

Encourage pursuit: The book's central idea is that men are more interested in a challenge and that a woman should make him work to win her over.

Maintain dignity: Following the rules is presented as a way for women to treat themselves with respect and demand the same from men.

Lead a full life: The rules encourage women to have a busy and satisfying life outside of romance, so they are not overly dependent on a man.

Goal is marriage: The ultimate goal of following the rules is to find a husband in the shortest time possible.

Examples of rules
Rule #1: "You are a creature unlike any other". 
Don't call him first: A woman should never initiate contact. 
Limit dates: Don't see him more than once or twice a week. 
No kissing on the first date: This is a rule that requires discipline. 
Don't talk to him first: A woman should not initiate a conversation with a man she is interested in.

^^^ the premise of the rules [/quote]

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