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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]NP. None of the things OP did are optional make-work she made up to be a martyr.[/b] It's absolutely true that some parents do that -- if OP were complaining about the burden of organizing an elaborate family Halloween costume or staying up until 3am hand making a piñata for a kid's birthday party, I'd agree she brought this on herself.

Making sure your kid is wearing the performance outfit that school or an activity has instructed them to wear is not optional make-work. It's just part of being a parent in 2025. Same with buying a birthday gift for another kid's party. And no, kids under age 11 or 12, minimum, can't do this on their own and it would be unkind to tell them to do it - in fact part of the emotional labor of parenting is to involve younger kids in the purchasing of gifts for other people and discuss how you do it (budget, how to guard against getting them something they already have, etc.) so that when they are older they can do it themselves. Children don't develop skills like that [I]sua sponte[/I]. You have to teach them. Which is part of the reason it's not really optional -- teaching your kids how to be good party guests and how to celebrate others is an essential part of a kid's cultural education and you shouldn't just skip it because you are lazy.[/quote]

Did you read the part about the cookies?

CPS isn't taking your kids away for not bringing cookies to a Christmas carol.

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