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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]maybe she had noticed one and liked it, maybe it was his moms and he asked if he could give it to her etc. Who knows.

I think jumping to the conclusion of bad intent or bad character is a pretty sexist view. That males shouldn't be understood or given the benefit of the doubt - but should just be assumed to be bad people with bad intentions without even exploring the situation.

If OPs daughter had seen something used that she thought her boyfriend had really liked and gave it to him, I doubt the thread would be people accusing her immediately of being a horrible person with bad intent. [/quote]

Thank you! It's mind-boggling how many grown women are bashing a 17 year old boy with zero knowledge of his character or intent. [/quote]
Uh it was a dirty used water bottle. What kind of knowledge of character or intent is needed?[/quote]

He should have given his 17 year old GF of three months a diamond studs, OBVIOUSLY!!!! Come on!!! Raise your boys right.

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Yeah those are the only two options and any woman who has an issue with a dirty used gift is a gold digger. [/quote]

Having an issue with any gift is a character flaw. [/quote]

That is the most inane value statement ever.  Gifts in general should just be accepted graciously.  But sometimes people do weaponize gifts or gifts do show a level of absence of thought or consideration.  And it is OK to be rubbed the wrong way if either the receiver has gone all out in the past in giving thoughtful gifts, or the giver asked the receiver what they wanted and then gave nothing.

If cost is an issue, of COURSE the receiver should be grateful and gracious.  Thought really DOES count for a lot.  But the idea that no gift if ever cause for having an issue with it is absurd.  Some gifts are given with weird or bad intentions and it's totally fine to have an issue with those.

In this case, both sound young and clueless or maybe the BF has financial constraints, and I think it's beautiful that OP's DD has no issue with it.  But they mysterious liquid is definitely a good reason to wash it out well and even to raise that as a question if it bothered DD.  But if DD is fine, and only OP is grossed out, then OP should mention their thoughts to DD and then let it go.  OP should also praise their DD for being gracious and not caring a lot about material things.[/quote]

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