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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The OP is a real b for not making small talk with the mom who was making an effort. Get over yourself [/quote]

+1  From her own post she said the husband was looking at his phone but the mom was trying to interact. The mom is the one who wants to make connections but she's saddled with this unfriendly husband. What exactly is she supposed to do about that? You said yourself she was trying. 
How did we get to a point where friendship is only possible for a kid OR a woman when every single member of your family is a sparkling extrovert?
I went to one of these events just for moms and the other women kept gushing "we can't wait to meet your husband." WHY? Why can't we be friends without dragging him into it? You're just going to be disappointed.[/quote]

I often feel like I’m left out of things where it is expected for both me and DH to show up for this reason. I have worked hard to make friends in our smallish town full of people who have known each other since high school. I’ve been successful for the most part, mostly with moms of my younger daughters friends, since she is extroverted like me and made many friends very quickly. My older son is more reserved and while I’m the same friendly person to the moms in his grade, and they’re friendly back to me, they don’t invite me to backyard BBQs because my child isn’t friends with theirs, and I do get that, but it is weird that the focus is on “our kids must be friends too”. And it’s the same with DH, who is wonderful, but also reserved and not super interested in making a ton of dad friends who are, in his words, “bros stuck in high school”. Which I totally support. But it also means I don’t get invited to adult stuff either since it’s always couples, and it works best if the moms AND the dads are friends. Basically, my social life consists of mom friends of my younger daughter , since she is a coveted playmate for this after school family get togethers and I can always say my husband has to work. It’s wierd [/quote]

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