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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Separated from my cheating ex at 38 years old. Moved into my own place and I’m slowly setting it up. I casually browse dating apps to gingerly see what’s out there.

I am being very careful and cautious and only having video calls with men who message me. So far from the men I’ve talked to:

- one has 3 children and is separated from his wife 
- one was a 45 year old lawyer who didn’t ask me a single question about me 
[b]- one was a 41 year old engineer who was nice but so socially awkward he was shaking and sweating[/b] 
- lots of men who just want sex

I’ve not met anyone and this is only through video chats…but wow. Is there anyone decent left? [/quote]

Yes - mostly likely including your third dude. He was shaking and sweating because he was [I]nervous[/I] because its a first date! And he likes you! If I were you, I'd give him a real date. Go somewhere in person, give him a chance to relax a bit, and see how it goes. Maybe nowhere. But if you're going to eliminate everyone who is nervous on a first date, yeah, you may very well miss out on the decent ones. Think about what actually matters for you, make sure you're screening on those things (like dude number 2, definitely he's no good) and don't screen out people for dumb reasons. [/quote]

I agree here, socially awkward -- so what? With practice he'll get better. Lots of us socially awkward people out there - I've learned a lot over the years - still learning! - and my socially less awkward friends don't hate me for it. It's fine. lean into it!![/quote]

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