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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DS is social, smart, good looking, cool and hip and generally gets along very well in life. He's never had a girlfriend, though he has many female friends who flirt with him. As he's gotten older I get the sense he might be on the spectrum, because he's become very rigid in his thinking. When we ask him why he doesn't date, he says he doesn't see the point, that it seems like too much effort for something he doesn't really care about. He doesn't even hook up at parties, and recently he told us that he thinks he's asexual. (And no, he's not gay, we've talked about that too.) Is this common or is it another phase that boys go through? DH and I are both very surprised.[/quote]

No, it’s not common. It’s a sexual deviance, by definition. But it happens. Take him at his word. Assume there won’t be grandchildren from his seed in the future. Adjust your will accordingly.[/quote]

Not wanting to have sex is not a sexual deviance.[/quote]

Yes, it is. By definition. It deviates from the norm. So it is a deviancy. [/quote]

:roll: Thank you for the statistics lesson, Captain Rigid. But flexible thinkers understand that the word "deviance" carries a negative connotation, and that is what we are responding to.

OP, just support him. And he may end up with a partner anyway. Just because someone is asexual doesn't mean they don't form emotional attachments. Sexual attraction is just one part of a relationship.[/quote]

Well, being asexual IS deviant in the negative connotations sense, too. It's just plain weird, abnormal and anti-social.[/quote]

It's actually more normal to care about a person's soul and wellbeing than how you can use them for your own pleasure. [/quote]

The word you’re looking for is noble. Not normal. Because for a teen that is not normal.[/quote]

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