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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]what do you think about woman who expect their man to pay for everything and never go 50/50. If you are a man and would do it then what do you need or want to see in her?[/quote]

You are grossly taking your question out of proportion or reality. 1. There is a difference between never contributing or starting contributing when people are exclusive 2. Counting each time 50/50, Venmo back and forth, going Dutch looks very transactional to me as a woman. I have a companion like that with whom I go out to book clubs, opera and jazz at times. But I feel nothing sexual towards a transactional man who always bins counts. 3. There are ways she can contribute without going 50/50 in restaurants in front of everyone to show how "liberal" and financially independent she is. Travel, contribute to expensive joint purchases like cars, taking on more household or childcare duties (some GFs drive their partners' kids to sports practices, never heard of it?) 4. Men and women are not equal. In dating, a man is almost ALWAYS older, more professionally established and better situated in life. It would be unfair to ask a younger woman to pay 50/50 with someone more financially successful, anyway. If this is what he wants, he should date women his age or older, and of similar financial stamina[/quote]

Wow, there are a ton of assumptions built in there.  It makes no sense to me that the rate of contribution, whatever that may be, would change dramatically at exclusivity.[/quote]

It absolutely does. I won't contribute anything to a man "test driving" me . He gets casual sex which is plenty and cheaper than hiring an escort. I'm nothing to him, a number on his bed post. I know how men on OLD think and operate- men told me themselves. A woman must be nuts and really desperate to contribute financially until he commits to only seeing her. They will only think she's desperate if woman starts organizing and paying for dates. 
Men are the most practical and transactional creatures out there: they vote for women with their wallet. [/quote]

It’s probably for the best you aren’t contributing.  You need to save your money for therapy.[/quote]

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