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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You wrote:  “Brenda talks badly about Joan to friends and family, saying she is mentally ill, and [b]tells her friends and family to avoid talking to her.[/b] [b]Now Joan is [/b]disabled, [b]alone, depressed, and isolated[/b] and says she doesn't know what she did wrong to deserve this treatment.”

Brenda is not cut out to be a caregiver to an elderly person.  She’s been and is abusive, both emotionally and financially.

OP, you should call adult protective services.
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I can't know for sure, but I think Joan would be in the same boat even if Brenda were not in the picture. Or more likely, Joan would have died a long time ago.  There have been many times that Joan has fallen and has been unable to get up, to call or get help.  Brenda got her a watch to detect falls that would notify her.[/quote]

It seems that people like telling or hearing this so they can keep the status quo.  But if Joan didn’t have anyone to help in the home the first time, the social workers in the hospital would’ve made other arrangements for her, possibly a stay in rehab to start.  She might’ve been in assisted living or a nursing home already.

It shouldn't excuse Brenda’s behavior.  If you’re a family member, it’s time to call a family meeting.  People need to acknowledge that Brenda should not continue being the caregiver and people need to look into all other possible options for Joan’s care.  And Brenda owes her mother money for the house.[/quote]

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