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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The process is annoying, but having children in your care can be annoying and unpredictable and they will mess with your schedule. You have to show that you can handle this. Nothing you're saying would convince me.[/quote]

I think that they will actually affect my schedule far less if I can get 50/50 and know when I need to be responsible for them and then be able to focus on work the rest of the time, and if anything I will be a better parent after divorce because I will not have my focus split all of the time between two things. [/quote]

What two things is your focus being split between now?

Also, did you not know the time of the parenting class?  I am confused.[/quote]

There were different class times to sign up for but I didn't realize how it worked until it was too late; I assumed my attorney would present me with options and make sure I took care of it.

My focus now is being split between family and work. I think that 50/50 custody would let me go all-in at work when I don't have the kids and be more present for them when I do, and I think it will be better for them than before divorce.[/quote]

This is all theoretical and that's the problem. You can't choose to prioritize parenting when it's convenient. You have to prioritize it NOW and stop making excuses.[/quote]

I don't think it's fair to expect that before I've had time to rearrange my life; I don't even have time to set up a place for them to visit at yet. My wife is in our family house and since she has a head start in terms of having a place for them to be where they're already comfortable, I should get time to adjust my work schedule, figure out housing, etc. [/quote]
I don’t understand what you’re saying; you’re the one who filed for divorce, so this is happening on timing that YOU imposed. Didn’t you think any of through or make plans before filing?[/quote]

Honestly I thought DW would want to leave the house and set up her own place once she saw that I had filed so she wouldn’t have to prolong things. And I travel enough that if she didn’t, I figured that I could stay in hotels in between work trips and see the kids in our old house and that she would go to a friend’s house or hotel during those times. My attorney said nesting was a very likely arrangement and that seemed like the best option financially but DW flat out rejected that. [/quote]
Omg,[b] there’s so much magical thinking on your and your attorney’s parts[/b], now I do think you’re a troll. If your wife has been the primary caregiver at home with the kids while you worked long hours at a demanding job and traveled frequently, it’s absurd that anyone would think that she would voluntarily move out of the house. This weekend, start looking at housing. Sign a lease as soon as you can. Once you move in, take the kids out shopping for the items they’ll need for their new rooms. That can be part of what you do with them during your custodial time.[/quote]

Yeah, either this whole thing is made up or OP is not being truthful about what their attorney advised or OP truly has no idea what their attorney said (likely as they had no idea what their obligations were, either, per this post). No attorney is going to tell someone that "nesting was a very likely arrangement." There are no "likely" arrangements or outcomes with this stuff with divorcing couples. In fact a DW who has been served with a divorce petition is "unlikely" to leave her home for "a hotel" or "a friend's house" while the man divorcing her stays there periodically. And any divorce attorney knows this well. Not a "likely arrangement" at all, even if it is an option to be pursued. The lawyer probably mentioned it as something some couples do, and OP -- in all the cluelessness they have shown here -- heard "likely" for no reason at all other than it sounded convenient for them.  [/quote]

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