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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It really depends on your kid's personality and social situation. [b]It'll make dating much harde[/b]r. [/quote]

No, no, no. This is a myth. Staying at parent's home does not make dating harder for adult males.  It makes it way easier and more fun.

My DS stayed home and he dated quite a bit. Several things happened when he was home -

- His day to day domestic life was easier and well organized because of me. This gave him peace of mind and time.  As a result, he had the time and patience to be more present for his SO. Also, since he was not paying the bills for running the home, he also was saving money and could treat or take care of his GF,

- He had to plan the intimate part of a romantic life because there was less privacy at my house than living alone in an apartment.  Which meant that neither he nor the girl had the pressure of having sex in the first few dates.  So no crossed signals, no expectations etc. [b]Sex happened when the relationship itself had had time to mature.
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- DS and his gf, both went out of their way to get out of the house and do new things and have more adventures together - since they did not want to just hang out at our place.  Even when they were trying to save money (and many times ate at home with us), they looked for new ways to explore things outside.  I have seen that often men become lazy when they are alone in an apartment and they stop planning evenings or outings - because they are in their comfort zone.  [/quote]

First, the fact that you knew when sex first happened with them is something that generally children and parents do not want. Second, once sex happens, most 24 year olds want to be banging all the time. Living with mommy makes that a lot harder. I really doubt that your son’s description of how this arrangement impacted his sex life would be as rosy as yours.[/quote]

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