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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I did the same thing and it made our life way easier. My plan was to go back when everyone was in Kindergarten. But covid hit and that didn't work because of virtual school so I stayed out of work way longer than I intended to.

Fast forward and our kid is in middle school and DH filed for divorce out of nowhere because it "just wasn't working for him" and I am screwed. And DH gets to walk away with all the benefits that came from having complete flexibility during the time of his career when he really needed to prove himself. I'm going to basically have sole custody but also have to rebuild my career from zero, and doing those two things simultaneously will be a huge struggle.

I read so many threads like this over the years and I nodded along like yes, it makes life so much easier, go for it if you can. Now I disagree.

Stay part-time or something, or have your DH downshift so he can pick up more of the mental load. And if he isn't willing to do so, I see that as a red flag. It only gets more intense once they're both in elementary school and have more complex activities, social and educational needs and if everyone isn't willing to make sacrifices- they don't have to be equal- to facilitate those things, then it's a bad sign. [/quote]

If OP does SAH, before she makes the change would a post-nup protect her in this scenario?[/quote]

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