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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. I clearly was very uninformed. I hadn’t followed data closely nor had anyone in my core circle or extended circle seemingly had difficulties or abnormalities.  [b]Most of my group is Masters educated, middle class African American, Puerto Rican, and Filipino. Raised and schooled pre-college in PG County. [/b]Which may be a much smaller data point than Caucasian women.

I am in no way offended at the remarks here nor my doctors - I was simply shocked at her blunt push to start immediately. [/quote]
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We're getting to some loaded questions here, OP. Do you think the bolded is a factor in being knowledgeable about a wide range of medically-important topics?[/b]

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I am Black also and I am not surprised and before OP posted her race, I guessed that she might also be Black. In my experience, I have found that my achiever Black friends were much more focused on academic and career success than marriage and fertility compared to my achiever white friends. Not that my Black friends weren't interested in marriage - they are, and a common frustration is the lack of quality men who are similarly interested in marriage and settling down, but in general, my white peers were laser focused on finding the husband sooner, at the same time they were career climbing, while my Black friends were more focused on their individual success and then as they got older began focusing more on trying to find a husband. What this means is that the white women are getting married earlier and still doing the career climbing and have many more years of being married and building wealth with a partner before they start TTC and they can then more easily afford fertility treatments, while I see my Black friends get married later and get smacked in the face with the expense of fertility treatments. So OP is probably not being disingenuous in saying she's not hearing about this among her peer group, especially if the majority of her peer group is not yet married and actively TTC. [/quote]

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