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[quote=Anonymous]It’s been almost 28 years since DH and I had our first date at the end of our freshman year in college. At the time I just wanted someone I enjoyed being around, found interesting, enjoyed sex with. It just kept being very easy. The one criteria I remember was that I didn’t want to get serious with anyone who could never envision being a father.

I don’t think I realized at the time; but there were subconscious criteria. I’d seen him in the college improv group and in the early days of dating really enjoyed his quick humor and word play - it continues to be something I laugh at often, but I had no idea at the time how important humor was to me. Also, obviously we had picked the same college and there were certain things (valuing education, choosing a rural environment…) that this meant by default.

Over time, I really appreciated how we resolved problems together and address frustrations. Communication would be necessary for me now, but I didn’t know that then.

I also, over time, have come to really value how much he helps me see perspective and calm down when I’m spiraling. But I don’t know how one would know that while dating.

Where we sometimes discuss that we picked poorly is that a lot of our strengths and weaknesses overlap - sometimes it would be nice to divide responsibilities in a “you like doing this and I like doing that” sort of way. But that only became clear when we had kids. [/quote]

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