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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have a large house with room for everyone but my in-laws (MIL and SIL) would visit and expect to have the kids sleep with them in their bed, on school nights. It became a huge problem. My kids wouldn’t go to sleep on time, they would be in bed giggling and having fun an hour past bedtime, the kids exhausted in the morning, parents having to awkwardly try to get the kids out of the bed the next morning, etc. It was a disaster. The expectation from my in-laws was clearly that I just needed to chill and let it happen because they enjoyed the snuggles. I regret so much that I let it go on for so long without saying anything. It basically ruined our relationship. The resentment that grew after every visit finally took its toll and I finally set some boundaries. Sleepovers only on weekends, not on school nights. We also had to limit the length of visits because the disruption on our lives was too much.

You absolutely need to set boundaries. This is not an issue of respecting your elders. Kids thrive on routine and structure. Sleeping on a couch or floor on a school night is ridiculous. The grandparents shouldn’t expect to be catered to at the expense of the child’s well being. That is beyond selfish. [/quote]

I agree with this one hundred percent. Grandma insisted she share a bed with our older kids. Everyone was then exhausted.

If I say that on this forum, everyone thinks I’m an awful person. For the record, I didn’t come from a cosleeping family nor did I ever share a bed with my grandparents. I sure as hell didn’t have a grandmother who begged me to sleep with her at night. I find it a little weird, but I’ll get flamed for saying that too.[/quote]

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