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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm glad I didn't stop working. We had an amazing nanny and my husband and I never worked weekends so we had two full days of only family time. Now I'm able to work from home full time and I have a ton of flexibility in my job (I also make quite a lot). I find that my kids need me more now that they're older and I'm grateful that I'm able to be here forthem in a way that I wouldn't be if I were still trying to establish myself. [/quote]

I had the absolute opposite experience. 
When we both worked full time, weekends felt like more work. All the laundry, errands, and kids events were compressed into two quick days. My husband and I were running around like crazy trying to get everything done. We never had time to relax or enjoy life. Now, I can get all the random stuff done during the work week and truly provide our family some downtime.

Even when I was working from home, I was expected to be, well ...working. So I found it hard to get to school pick up on time, drive them to practices, etc. We both found that the more "established" (or bigger) the job, the more you were expected to be online and available during work hours. What are these magic jobs where you only have to work during the school hours?  Technically, that would be a part-time job and not exactly a path to a well paying job.

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I'm the PP. When our kids were younger the nanny did all their laundry (clothes, beds, and towels) so all my husband and I had to do was our own laundry, which was easy enough. Errands it depends, a lot of stuff can be done online... Also our nanny was big on getting our kids out in the world so if they had a birthday party to go to, she would take them out to buy the birthday present, bag, and card. She'd also take them to run more benign errands like returning an Amazon purchase. Kids shouldn't sit at home all day...

As they got older and started attending school part-time (which is when they started to do activities on the weekend - what one-year olds are playing soccer?), she wanted to remain employed full-time she would she would help with more stuff around the house like food prep and groceries. Once they started attending school full-time she became like a house manager during the day. So yeah, our weekends have always been pretty full of family time.

Also, I am expected to be working while I'm working from home... But my kids leave for the bus at 7:15 and get home from the bus at 4:15. That's 9 hours. Obviously I take a break for lunch and I am not always done working at 4:15 but my husband and I trade off who takes them to evening sports and who makes dinner so some nights I can work later. I still very rarely work on weekends. Not hard to get my work done during that time. [/quote]

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