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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just transitioned from public to private for middle school, where half the grade is doing Capital Cotillion, and there is general consternation about how new girls can't participate because they don't have enough boys.

This is not an issue for me as we wouldn't be doing it regardless, but it does make me pause and wonder: How does thing remain so popular and yet so totally frozen in amber? I have so many questions... If you are sending your young adolescents, do you worry about how alienating it may feel to LGBTQ adolescents who aren't "out" yet, and how do you handle that?

The website says "While we embrace tradition and the importance it plays in our society, we believe that keeping current with the needs of today’s youth is equally important. We prepare our students with social skills for the “elite experience” without promoting the elitist paradigm of the past."

The fact that they won't deviate from their 50-50 gender ratio just seems AWFULLY out of step. Can someone explain why someone can't do something more inclusive? There are plenty of ballroom dancing studios that  manage to do better ....

(Also, a little more snarky now: How DOES "the elite experience" differs from "the elitist paradigm of the past"? Anyone able to explain?)

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No I do not worry about how alienating it might be to LGBTQ adolescents because [b]cotillion for kids 14 and under is not an activity where anyone’s sexual orientation would be a factor - if it was even known to the child at this age.[/b] It’s dancing and manners and socializing - not about who someone is sexually attracted to. Do I worry about how alienating it might be to children with disabilities? Yes. Kids who have social anxiety? Yes. This is a very weird question and you should remind yourself that children are not sexual beings. Wtf. [/quote]

Are you insane? Kids know who they’re attracted to from a MUCH younger age than 14.[/quote]

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