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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents are young boomers and they really struggle with being super critical.  They also take any decisions that make that are different than what they chose as criticism.

For instance, my mom was a SAHM and my father was the breadwinner who never did any childcare or cooking.  I have a big job and split household duties 50/50 with my DH.  My mom routinely tells me that I'm mistreating my kids because I don't stay home and that they wouldn't have problems if I didn't work.  She also thinks I mistreat my DH because he cooks and helps with the kids.  I got negative comments from her nearly every time we spoke for 10 years before I finally mostly ended contact.

As another instance, my mom didn't like my DD's name because it was the same as a teacher she didn't like in elementary school.  I'd never heard that story and had no idea when we picked the name.  My mom refused to use the name for the first three years of my DD's life and only called her "Cookie."  It was obnoxious.

As another example, I got a PhD in the hard sciences and worked really hard for it.  My father tells everyone it's not impressive because I'm not a "real doctor." He even told it to my Nobel Prize winning PhD advisor on my graduation day when my advisor was trying to tell him about my accomplishments.

I could go on, but it's endless.  They like my kids, but are so super critical of me we don't see them much anymore.  They never did any childcare and were never asked to do so.  I do worry that they'll start being just as critical of my kids as they are of me and I know that would really hurt them.  So now we just don't see or talk to them.[/quote]
Either your parents  are not young Boomers or they are under educated. This does not add up.  We were the ones in the workforce. [/quote]

I think this a cultural thing and not age related for this PP. The parents are probably immigrants.[/quote]

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