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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So yeah, I’m one of these moms that OP is talking about.  I have always been painfully shy and introverted.  I can fake being nice in professional settings for a limited amount of time but it is very draining for me.  
I’m a stay at home mom now and dealing with other parents is by the hardest part of parenting for me.  I am literally incapable of small talk.  I get very flustered and just give short answers.  With my close friends I’m talkative but I am very akward with people I don’t know.  
People make assumptions because I’m fashionable so they see me as aloof or snobby.  In reality, I’d love to be a social butterfly but it is painful for me to have to chit chat with a stranger about a topic that I haven’t thought about beforehand.  It also doesn’t help that the vast majority of moms at my kids’ preschool work and don’t seem to share my passions of gardening, fashion, and interior design.  Some literally roll thier eyes when I have brought up that stuff so it makes me even more hesitant to talk about myself.[/quote]

Maybe reframe and don't think of it as faking being nice.  Just be nice.  Ask people questions about themselves.  So easy.  That's all it takes.  No one really wants to talk about their job or your hobbies and honestly that should rarely come up.  I never talk about my job and no one asks.

How is INSERT CHILD'S NAME doing?
How many kids do you have?  What grade are they in?  Where do they go to school?
What are your summer plans?
What are your winter break plans?
What are your spring break plans?
How was your summer? 
What does INSERT CHILD'S NAME enjoy doing outside of school?[/quote]

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