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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
Who cares?
 He’s no longer your problem.
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They ain’t separated or divorced yet Pp.
Plus they have school aged children.
They’re all shackled to this fool. [/quote]

[/b]“He doesn’t seem to understand that I’m not responsible for supporting his needs anymore”[b]
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Hahaha.  My ex husband also didn't understand his problems were not mine to solve.  He actually spoke to me for some time after the divorce like I was a secretary in his office. I grey rock him about everything now.  I never speak to him about anything beyond the weather or other mundane pleasantries.  Anything important goes by email.  If he texts me with a question, if it is not an emergency about the kids, I will wait several days to respond, and then I will tell him I replied by email.  Then when he says he can't find it, I can just tell him to search email. If he asks me to do something, I say in a very cheerful voice some version of, " I have full confidence in your ability to do that."  I never tell him anything about the kids activities or school -- they are old enough to tell him what they want to share and he is old enough to sign up for listservs and go to Back to School night if he is interested.

The only things I take care of for him are things related to his health insurance because his is better than mine so the kids are on it.

He is a narcissist so, 20 years later, still strives for attention from me, but has finally learned that the only way he will get any response from me is when he behaves in a positive manner.

Interestingly, this kind of parallel grey rock parenting has been great for the kids.  There is much less tension in my relationship with their dad because we are never together. Over time, when left to interact with him just him and them, they have come to see his true colors.   [/quote]

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